To Bi or Not to Bi

A new study claims all women are bisexual, so we had to look into that a little more.

Do bisexual people exist, is everyone bisexual? A study was recently released that claimed all women are bisexual. This led to some questions and lots of reading and then more questions.

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Articles and Books We Referenced for This Episode:

More Bisexual Women_ Think Again. _ Psychology Today, Jan 30, 2017

Women are either bisexual or gay but 'never straight' - Telegraph, Nov 5, 2015

We’re all bisexual, study claims, Mar 15, 2018

Women’s sexuality ‘can change throughout life’ several times — and this could explain why women like Miley Cyrus have dated men and women, Oct 14, 2017

Study Claims Women Are Bisexual Because It Turns Men On _ NewNowNext, May 25, 2017

Why I’m Not Buying This Study That Claims All Women Are a Little Gay, Nov 6, 2015

What Women Want (Maybe) - The New York Times,Jun 12, 2008

3 Myths About Bisexuality, Debunked by Science _ Psychology Today, May 22, 2014

Is Bisexual Identity a Useful Fiction? Slate, Mar 21, 2014

The Scientific Quest to Prove Bisexuality Exists - The New York Times, Mar 20, 2014

Movement Advancement Project _ New Report_ Bisexual People Face Invisibility, Isolation, and Shocking Rates of Discrimination and Violence, Sep 27, 2016

Meghan Markle On Her Biracial Identity - Actress Meghan Markle Discusses Being Half Black Half White, Dec 22, 2016

The Equal Rights Amendment Was Just Ratified by Illinois. What Does That Mean_ - The New York Times, May 31, 2018

How the dazzling, overstuffed ‘Incredibles 2’ holds up a cracked mirror to present-day reality, Jul 4, 2018



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Are You Sisters?


I remember the first time I held her hand in public. Not where we were, how it felt. The headlines were full of the Rebecca Wight murder. Wight and her girlfriend had been camping in the woods. Another camper met them on the trail and, when he learned they were lesbians, he stalked them and then shot them 8 times, severely injuring Brenner and killing Wight. He was convicted for his crimes, not before his lawyer introduced the defense of "gay panic".  In 1988, when the murders occurred, it was admissible in court to claim the panic of being exposed to homosexual behavior could create a legitimate, violent response.

I remember the act of courage it felt like, to reach over in a public mall in Orem, UT, and touch my fingers to her fingers. I remember forcing myself not to look around and see if people were looking as our hands slid from touching to entwined. I remember the simple, sweet feeling of her palm against my palm. And my racing heart, inspired by the first rush of romance and the background awareness of possible violence. Was I creating gay panic with my fingers caressing her fingers? 

Other headlines, like Sakia Gunn and Matthew Shepherd's murders, furthered a belief of unexpected violence. Friends of mine, told me stories of being teens and playing "smear the queer" with their friends. (A game where several boys would chase one boy and then kind of beat on him.) They hadn't known what it meant and felt pretty awful about it. And where did they get the idea? Kids learn these things. In 1992, Colorado passed Amendment 2. The only place in the country where it became legal to discriminate against LGBT people. A psychologist, Glenda Russell, studied the impact and eventually wrote Voted Out. She learned minority groups show signs of PTSD when their basic human rights are voted on. That doesn't surprise me. I felt constantly under siege. 

Flashback to 1999. I put gay bumper stickers on my car, hopeful I wouldn't find my tires slashed because of it. We moved to Tacoma, WA and bought wedding rings. We probably paid more for them than we should have, we were both so delighted when the salesperson commented we were a cute couple. She worked Borders and I ran the Rainbow Center, Tacoma's LGBT Center. We decided to be out, as much as possible, to stand for those who couldn't be out. I volunteered with the Legal Marriage Alliance of Washington and appeared on television and debated in public across the state. We were interviewed by the local paper, twice. We got married in Canada when it became legal and had it spread across the front page of the paper. And still, when she was stuck on the freeway in a snowstorm and I had to call the highway patrol, I told them my sister was trapped. I didn't want our gayness to delay her possible rescue. And I believed it might. 

I didn't wonder if I was safe. I knew I wasn't. When 9/11 struck and the country reacted with panic and fear, I realized the rest of the population was having a moment of experiencing what I felt when I held my girlfriend's hand in public. I didn't feel less safe after 9/11, I felt less alone in knowing I wasn't. 

We have come far. We have achieved social equality and legal equality in many areas. I don't fear for my life when I hold a woman's hand in public any more, most of the time. And, on Feb 10, I sat and listened to Orlando, a poem about the 2016 massacre of LGBT people at a nightclub in Florida. It reminds me however far we have come, we have farther to go.