BiCurean started for me as a conscious concept when I was working in the LGBT community. In my own journey, coming out as a person of faith created what felt like an impossible choice. I could either leave my faith, which I chose at the age of 13 when I converted to Mormonism. Or I could ignore the way I felt about the woman that I loved. I spent months agonizingly trying to sort out how to be myself in this world in which my love and my faith were at odds. My friends, mostly faithful Mormons, were loving and supportive and (for the most part) horrified that I would even consider leaving the faith to be with a woman. I eventually did choose to honor my love for the woman I fell for and leave the church I had chosen as my home. It was a painful and confusing experience.
When I started working at the Rainbow Center in Tacoma, WA, I ran into more people facing a similar challenge. People who identified as devoutly Christian for the most part feeling like they could live celibate lives alone or they could have partnership and love and lose the faith that called to them. At the time the LGBT community was also very rejecting of people who were gay and also maintained their Christian faith. Neither community was open to a world in which these things co-exist comfortably. I realized I wanted a world in which these arbitrary contradictions were no longer enforced but instead embraced. And the concept of BiCurean was created.
I imagine a world in which people celebrate their inner inconsistencies. Where we embrace our weirdness and we accept ourselves as the dynamic creatures of change and curiosity we are capable of being. I believe there will be less pain in the world if more people can face their own confusing messiness.
So join me in the #BiCurean movement. Notice your own BiCurean moments. The things that don't fit neatly into a marketing package and yet are still true.