What's with Millennials?

Ageism is frequently viewed from the perspective of how we treat older people. It is, however, far more wide reaching and complex. In this episode Erik and Aicila explore the question of Millenials and how they are perceived.

Transcript link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sGpYxoOUFD7vTxbgl5Nisi4vSeJLC6iGgiJxPPwhYgE/edit?usp=sharing


Up in Smoke

Marijuana has been legalized in several states at this point. CO and WA were notably the first to legalize recreational use of cannabis. So far the sky hasn't fallen and yet, things have been happening. We dug in a little and ended up with more questions than answers.

Transcript Link: https://drive.google.com/open?id=1AIxq0_1xI-rA9U_GaS-j1LtQIi7Wvdbzyc7vibh_0MM

Aging Superheroes

 My mom and partner playing cards. 

My mom and partner playing cards. 

I loved Logan, the Xmen film that came out in March 2017. It had an indie movie feel to it, despite being a big budget action film. And, poignantly for me, one of the main characters, Professor X, was afflicted with dementia. Watching a movie with Wolverine, a crusty, action guy with anger issues, navigate the responsibilities resulting from loving people was surreal. It was also beautiful. In the midst of high speed car chases and impossible stunts resulting in gory violence, Wolverine deals with the realities of caring for someone with a disability. He pushes the wheelchair to the car; unloads Professor X; and then folds the wheelchair up and puts it in the trunk. And THEN gets into the driver's seat and engages in speedy, highway shenanigans.  

Aging is inevitable. And, as my grandmother used to say, it beats the alternative. The humanity Logan brought to the experience of the effects of aging to a broader, action oriented audience is really beautiful to me. I hope more mainstream media starts broadening the content of their stories in this way. 

Others Must Also


It is not enough that I succeed, others must also succeed.
It is not enough that I have peace, others must also have peace.
It is not enough that I have abundance, others must also have abundance. 

Competition can create the inspiration to push ourselves harder and farther. And the need to win, to be on top, can become a lens limiting our view of others as only obstacles to overcome. Recently some things have occurred in my social circles to remind me of the dangers of trying to be right or righteous. I have been reminded of the ways in which misery loves company.

I am grateful to know and love people who want to live differently. Who seek to embrace a doctrine of support and seek to life one another up. Thank you. May we spread our view to a larger circle and see an increase in compassion and curiosity.  


International Women's Day

Cultural misogyny is so often heard as "men treat women badly". As if only men can be misogynistic. As if misogyny always looks like being treated badly. Misogyny is a dangerous word. It's a misunderstood word. People tune out and turn off when they hear it. It has been overused. So, in some ways, misogyny is a useless word. 

So, what is misogyny? I can look up a definition and copy it here. I tend to love Merriam-Webster as my generic answer to life's questions. Instead, I thought about what it looks like in my world and the world around me.

Misogyny is when I am treated better and differently when I have long hair. And when my male friends are treated worse and differently when they have long hair. Misogyny is the way women distrust beautiful women. Misogyny is the way strong women feel the need to apologize for their strength. Misogyny is my mother telling me not to work out and get too muscled or I would be unattractive. Misogyny is my neighbor telling me she didn't understand why I was a lesbian since I was "pretty enough to get a guy". Misogyny is knowing my hair is only attractive on my head. Misogyny is I apologize when someone bumps into me. Misogyny is men being afraid to wear skirts or share their emotions with other men. Misogyny is women denying their sexual desires. Misogyny is effortless perfection. Misogyny is Prince Charming. 

Misogyny hurts us all in different ways.